2021_02_19.W6 Notes
15 February 2021 Monday’s note
Guest = Ms.BJ
🎓 Face to face graduation
Graduation in the gym (basketball court)
Social distancing
Optional (not mandatory) online & offline
Yearbook and senior pages
Beginning of the 4th quarter = photo booth in School for senior picture
A good camera is prepared for us
Small picture for the teachers and the friends
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Mr. Hall sees improvement on the notes (Yes !!!!!!!)
Reasons for losing points on the note
Context
Vocabulary that Mr. emphasized in class
Chapter notes
*** it is important to check our notes with the classmates.
Organization
Look good (we should simply get information through the notes)
Format
Divide the main idea into smaller pieces (small chunks)
Visual exegesis
ex: food >>> mouth >>> stomach
We should divide the information into smaller chunks
(it helps us to understand the information)
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Chapter 3 summary from Mr. Hall (building their raft)
Important = 4 things to prepare for the departing.
Reconciliation 화해: A fancy word for reestablishing a piece of you.
= identification of someone or something or person from previous encounters or knowledge.
Try fixing relationships to have a good relationship.
Forgiveness is a part of reconciliation
It is hard to do
ex: Jesus reconciled us to God.
Avoid = burn bridges: Destroying connection and relationship
Ex: I need to say this to George before destroying the relationship with him.
Opposite of reconciliation = burn bridges
Affirmation 확인: Decide to compliment & encourage others
You will leave better if you do this.
Making a good image of yourself.
Farewell 작별인사: saying “good-bye”. You might regret it if you don’t do this.
Do not avoid this, even though it might feel awkward
It can be really important for other people.
Just do it. Force yourself even though you don’t want (better than regretting it)
Think destination: 미래 계획 Preparing…. Think about the place you go.
Ex: spies look ahead before the mission.
Knowing information before you face the situation is helpful.
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Additional notes
{Character sheet} 2021_01_18.GNG Character Sheets.SS
The boys did a good job on formatting. Mr. Hall likes the visual slides.
Henry banned for this week XD
Chapter 4
(Fish out of Water The Transition Stage)
Start of transition stage = begins the moment you leave a place.
It ends once you have the desire (conscious or unconscious), to connect with, commit to and participate in the new place.
Chaos and Ambiguity
The most common characteristic of the transition stage = utter chaos
Unexpected Shock
TCK have had to be observant in order to see what was happening around them and to understand the reasons for what they saw.
TCKs are more observant compared to other domestic students.
TCKs must treat passport culture the same way they would any other foreign culture. This is BIG.
Things Change
You’ve changed while you’ve been away.
> your international experience has given you different sets of rules, norms and customs.
Tips = buy a guidebook to the country where you will be attending university, even if it is your home country.
“Enter as a foreigner - not as a hidden immigrant” - Uncle Dan, TCKid.com-
Transition Shock
The Transition stage is also where culture shock begins to take place.
Culture shock = “the feelings of confusion and anxiety experienced by somebody suddenly encountering an unfamiliar cultural environment”
^^^
This diagram shows the stage of cultural shock or country shock.
When it is experienced shock upon repatriation it is often referred to as reverse culture shock or re-entry shock.
The horizontal axis is indicative of the progression of time. I prefer not to indicate weeks or months here because each person progresses to and through transition shock differently and in varying time spans.
It is possible to go back and forth between the different phases.
The mid-line represents normal level of feeling
The Honeymoon Stage
Arrival in the home or host country = initial euphoria
Everything is exciting, new and fun (feel like a tourist)
This stage happens when you return “home”.
The Dip
Everything and everybody seems so materialistic, shallow,ethnocentric, and bigoted and the list goes on and on.
This is the crisis stage of transition shock. It is indicated by the curve, mentioned earlier, a dip down from the normal level of feeling.
“Until you are ready to embrace home, perhaps
it is better that its charms elude you”
-Craig Storti in The Art of Coming Home-
Fight or Flight
This is when you resist the adjustment and want to return to your host country and old friends.
> You may become angry and start mocking your home country culture, something which can be very dangerous.
Freeze and Friends
There is a possibility that you could get stuck or freeze in this stage and not move forward.
> When you first move to the new culture, you may find everything is new, fun, and exciting.
> over time this euphoria gives way to feelings of irritability and hostility.
> be patient and look for resources to help you get through it
Gradual Adjustment
Emotional instability = another trademark of the transition stage, but it is predictable and expected.
Everyone here is so much smarter than me
I chose the wrong school.
Typical Reactions
Student may feel
Fear = worry they will not succeed academically or socially in this place.
Disappointment = perhaps the school, the people, the classes or the experiences have not met up to their expectations.
Low self-esteem = arises from feeling marginalized.
Tips: Give yourself some time. “This too shall pass.”
Cultural Incidents
On top of everything else you have to deal with when entering a country or culture.
Type 1 Cultural incidents
It occurs when we react to the behavior of the people of the local culture.
These types of incident take place when we first move to a foreign country
Type 2 Cultural Incidents
It occurs when the local people react to our behavior.
Ex: it can be as simple as getting laughed at in the U.S. for asking a classmate for a “rubber”.
Examples
Expecting Cultural Sameness
It is not unusual to have feelings of self-doubt and lose your self-confidence when these things are routinely taking place
Cultural Effectiveness
It is attained by becoming aware of these reactions and realizing that cultural incidents occur because we are expecting cultural sameness.
Tips: Don’t be afraid to ask questions in order to better understand the culture.
Hitting the dip
Once the “honeymoon” stage over, reality begins to set in and feelings of fun give way to a whole spectrum of emotions
Flip Flopping Emotions
Human beings bring order into their lives by creating routines.
> These routines become so well-rehearsed that you get to the point where you no longer need to keep them on a conscious level in order to repeat them.
The learning curve is steep when internationals first enter or global nomads re-enter.
Many things coming at you once and you could feel overwhelmed
It is normal to feel this way
It will eventually settle down and you will be able to laugh at your experiences.
Exaggerated Responses
Many things coming at you at once
> it feels quite overwhelming and it can be an enormous problem.
Homesickness
It is tough to avoid not just for international students but all students.
It is an expression of grief.
“There are times when you can decide to be homesick. Choose to be homesick - don’t let it choose you!”
-Libby Stephens, Interaction Intl-
How to beat homesickness:
Plan a time when you don’t have to be anywhere for a while
Put your favorite music on
Look at your photo albums and school yearbooks
Have a good cry
Try this: Instead of trying to fight off homesickness, pick a good time and just give in to it.
The Blues
Blue days, crying spells and mood swings are normal in the transition stage.
How to shake the blues:
Engage in activities that bring you joy.
Try identifying all the good that has come from this change in your life
Get your mind off things by going to a comedy film or out with new friends
Thoughts of Transferring
Many students begin entertaining thoughts about transferring out to another school during this time.
Everyone Goes Through It
This is such a difficult time for students because they are desperately missing their best friends and want someone to talk to.
Exhausting Time
You need to take care of yourself so you don’t become sick and get behind in your classes
Depression Versus Grief
If you are spending your time living in the past, finding no joy in the present, you may be heading towards clinical depression and you need to seek professional help.
Grief
We all experience various losses
It is a part of life
Loss is a common theme for TCKs
Depression
It is bigger than grief
There are some wonderful antidepressants drugs now on the market
Listen to the sign of depression
Sleeping too little or much
Little appetite
Lost weight
Irritability
Hard time concentrating
Student Health and Counseling Services
Student counseling centers exist on nearly every college campus and many have other less overt layers of student support.
Choose Well
When you make an appointment with a counselor ask for someone who has had experience living internationally or who knows about TCKs.
The good news is :
Depression,suicide and other mental health issues in university students are taken seriously
There is help available
You never have to face it alone
Surviving the Chaos
Self-Centeredness
It is not a bad thing at this time in your life and your transition.
Thinking about taking care of yourself
Plan Ahead
Don’t wait for the break to be upon you before thinking about where you will go.
Plan your tips for the year early on.
Ask Questions
It could be that the burning question you have but are too embarrassed to ask at the risk of looking completely foolish is something other first-year students don’t understand as well and it has nothing to do with the culture
Invite Visitors
Feeling negative about the school => invite someone to come and visit => you can show them around your new environment => point out all the best things about living there
Extend Grace
Try not to go by first impressions of other students you meet because everyone is reacting to all the newness and may be feeling stressed.
Make It and Adventure
Treat each challenges as an adventure
What stories could you take away from your uncomfortable experiences?
Temporary and Unique
Learn to laugh every day, especially at yourself
Remember that this is just a stage
It is unique and temporary and, in time, you will get through it.
17 February 2021 Wednesday’s note
{Guest1 Sansan} Sanjaya Widodo
Sansan is an alumnus of MCS
He is attending the University of Wisconsin- Madison (UW Madison)
Major = Mechanical Engineering
How do you feel about the first year in college?
I am happy because there is more free time since classes are online. No worry about transportation or food.
But, I am quite sad because of missing in-person experiences.
What was the hardest adjustment and struggle due to transition?
Time management due to the time difference between the U.S and Indonesia
get used to online class was difficult for Sansan
Struggle - bad wife
How did you get involved in the community? Any difference from your community in high school?
Different student organizations (ex: Christian groups, Indonesian organizations...)
Highly recommend being a part of the community (ex Christian community)
How did you balance your academics and social life?
Calling high school friends through Discord at night
Playing games with his university friend
Any distinction between high school and university?
In university, you choose your own class, extracurricular, internships, or other programs
In high school, you follow the school’s schedule
How to build a relationship with a professor?
Submit assignment early
Come to class early and have some chat
Send emails to the professor if you have questions
If you had to do your first year all over again, what would you do differently?
I will attend more office hours
What last words do you have for the Class of 2021?
Cherish your times as a senior
Try to keep a connection with each other
> it is difficult to make a friend in college because it’s online.
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{Guest2 Herlina} Herlina Widodo
Fiona’s older sister (Class of 2015)
Attending Arizona State University (ASU)
> She is a senior
Major = Informatics (computer engineering)
What was your freshman year like? Did you have any struggles during the transition from MCS to College?
It was fun due to gaining freedom (a lot of free time).
You can be independent (fully controlling your time your self)
It was a bit hard because I was not used to speaking English.
> it got better after the first semester.
How has your TCK life influenced your identity development?
It changed the way I see the world
I was narrow-minded because did not experience much before
I learned that college lets me choose how to build my own life
Does anything surprise you?
Grades in college don’t really matter unless you want to continue to study at the graduate school
Was there anything that made you think: “I wish I had known this earlier before college”?
Knowing Ratemyprofessor.com earlier. It provides rates for the professors in the U.S
Grade is important
Searching for more information about the professor because the professors will greatly affect your class experience.
Did you experience any burnout? How did you handle it?
Yes
I was used to doubting my decision.
I was not sure about what I was doing.
It is important to endure a hard time.
Just do your best every time, things will eventually get better.
What the difference between international students and local students
They treat international students as the same. Not much difference
Some companies MIGHT not accept international students.
*** Before you apply to the company, check if they accept international students or not.
Did you take any internships?
I took 2
Web developer
Teacher assistant
Any advice for applying for an internship?
Start it early, it's better to have it early because it takes a lot of time to prepare things like a resume.
Get the grammar check before you submit it. (at least 3 people)
Are you not planning to go to a graduate school? Or are you going to work right away?
Maybe if I got scholarships, then I might go to a graduate school.
Do you have any last words for the class of 2021?
Enjoy your time with your family as much as you can
Keep a good relationship with your friends
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2 types of cultural Incidents
My perspective of incidence
“I” experience it
Eating with hand, I feel weird because I am new to that culture.
Question: Any experience you had?
Yulmae - lookism in Korean
I did not care about my appearance (style) when I was staying in Indonesia but in Korea, it made me self-conscious
Iksoo - respecting older. Age culture
Age is a big thing in Korean culture. Older people want you to behave respectfully.
The style also matters in Korea. People tend to judge you based on the appearance, unlike in Indonesia.
Other’s perspective of incidence
Question: Have you ever experienced this type of cultural incident?
Iksoo - I was using English in Korean Cafe, and the others looked at me weirdly.
Josiah - I used to not care about the style when I was young. One day, I went to the youth group with barefoot and they looked at me weirdly.
Mr. Hall - Which type of cultural incidents is more stressful? Type 1 or type 2?
Iksoo - Type 2
Because for type 1, you are the only one who acts weird and you know what you are doing wrong, but for type 2 other people judge you and you may not know what are you doing wrong
Sam - Type 1
Because it is what other people do. It’s not something I Can change
Belle - Type 2
It exhausts me when others are irritated with me. Type 1, your stress will add up, and one day you will explode.
“Experience is a good school. But the fees are high”
-Heinrich Heine-
Mr. Hall - It is very helpful to listen and hear other people’s experiences.
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Additional notes
Today was Widodo’s day
Person (physical) meeting with Ms. BJ on Friday at 1:30 p.m (Salatiga time)
ㅠㅠ sadly, I can’t join this physically
Purpose = to check and look at how are we using the Senior Seminar Class
Teachers want to hear our voice in person
NO Zoom meeting on Friday!!!!!!!
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