Itchy Feet to Dragging Feet The Leaving Stage

* Separating and Distancing

The leaving stage = loosening of emotional ties & distancing from family, fried, and relationships

Unconscious behavior and is a form of self-protection from your feelings.

Beware: “Everyone goes through distancing and separating differently. It could be evidence by withdrawal, frequent crying or sadness, becoming clingy with family or friends, or even  becoming angry and starting fights with those you love.”

Transition - You are heading off where no one knows anything about you.

Beware: “While handing over your roles and responsibilities might feel like a load off your shoulders at first, it may leave you feeling lost, unneeded, frustrated, or even angry the way the underclassman is handling the role.”

Dave Pollock: “For most TCKs, the collection of significant losses and separations before the end of adolescence is often more than most people experience in a lifetime.”

Confronting Grief

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• Why are you so sad?

> I am afraid that I will never see some people again.

> I know that my life will never be the same. I should be happy; that’s a good thing

• How do you feel different?

> I feel more confident.

> more mature

> More adaptable to different people

Henry !!!! 

Grieving is a process which takes time.

 

Do not rush it !!!!